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Halacha 165 / 215

Hilchos Rechilus, chapter 3, section 3 4

It is even more forbidden to tell someone that a person spoke against his children or relatives. Naturally, people get very upset when they hear such things.

If you tell someone that Reuven spoke against Shimon so that he will correct Reuven for it, see the Laws of Lashon Hara, paragraph 114.